relationship support
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& brilliant people
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come receive guidance in a proven method and style that works (over and over) to bring you into deeper connection with your truth.
and into grounded, loving, & curious relating with a partner.
this is exactly the relationship model you didn’t know you needed.
intuitive & practical support awaits
there is an art to finding the sweet spot in the relational field where you can be responsible for your own energy, tone or beliefs. this sweet spot is the magic of changing the power you have in co-creating the joy, pleasure, and connection in your relationship. the good news: robin is amazing at this art so you don’t have to be — yet
soyala together is not traditional psychotherapy. robin’s style is led by intuition, this means less time spent on background stories and more time focused on the heart of the matter. robin combines IFS informed parts work, somatic practice, tibetan buddhist philosophy and ancestral clearing plus training in pleasure and sensuality and many other holistic modalities.
it took me years (and years and years) to crack the code on how to have a long-term relationship that works – and sustains. along the way i was walking a path devoted to spiritual awakening - and it was working. yet, my achilles heel, the place i fell to pieces, the place i felt tossed around, lost, and truly so fucked up - was in long term relationship.
-robin
what is going on with long term relationships?
most people we know are sending texts to their besties where they vent about about their partner. This is where the most unfiltered shit storm of relationship discontent usually is expressed. maybe one of these sounds (or feels) familiar to you?
it is so compelling (and normal!) to feel that your partner is the root of the problem in your relationship. IF ONLY you could get them to change everything would finally be easier and better.
“I don’t know, she says she loves me but she spends 1000 times more time on her phone talking to her friends then asking me anything about my day or life. What the fuck?”
“Dude, she was being rude to me in front of the kids. I couldn’t fucking take it anymore… Then I told her I needed space and I went into the bedroom and closed the door to be alone and she fucking followed me in and there and wouldn’t stop harping on how I started it. She is being legit crazy!”
“She always says she wants more connection but when I get home from the effort and work and important business trip she is just pouty and withdrawn. If she wants more time and connection couldn’t she be excited to see me when I am home?” ”
the bad news, you’ve been trying all the venting, cajoling and repeatedly asking for your partner to change. yet, here we are…still. the good news, there is a different model that actually works beyond what you could imagine.
the change happens in you.
the shift of recognizing how you are creating or co-creating the dynamic, or perceiving it through a filter set in early childhood and reinforced by dominant cultural narratives, is the biggest game changer ever. this is the actual path to a long term relationship that feels good - sustainably.
“I am really trying here, but can you help a sister out and remind me how i am supposed to get excited to ‘worship at the altar of his sacred lingham’ when i am still earning more than him, cooking more dinners, AND taking the trash out? Fuck, I don’t want to castrate him with my words but I don’t know how to feel like he has any big dick energy!”
“i wonder if he’d take some kind of massage class if i found one and booked it for him? then he maybe can touch me somehow that didn’t require lube and a climax? but also, could we find a moment with enough time and lube that i actually can climax?”
“But wait, is it even worth trying any romantic relationship work if the relationship is not romantic? We DO NOT have sex, and have not in years! There is nothing romantic. I am just trying to figure out how to avoid the weekend blow-ups and survive to Monday when she goes to work. Do we even call this our romantic relationship or our roomate?!”
meet your relationship oracle: robin sandomirsky
i had attachment issues up the fucking whazoo. if it works for me, it can work for you.
i know how hard this is, and i know what can work — because i live it. i entered the relationship with my second husband with so much intention and thoughtfulness. we were truly full fucking hearted.
still… we rode the waves of struggle and conflict so intensely, there were moments we believed splitting up was the only real path forward.
what i lived, practiced, studied, and discovered (and continue to) is a method that works over and over to bring me into deeper connection with my own truth and into grounded, loving, curious connection as a couple.
robin sandomirsky • soyala founder
the relationship support dynamic & brilliant people actually need
the relationship support dynamic & brilliant people actually need